Moving Back With Parents Takes Planning

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I was recently given an offer to move back home because my grandmother is having trouble making ends meet. As much as I don't mind moving, I currently have a fiance that's not so keen on the idea. For him, he moved out of his parents house to brother's house, then to a friend before moving out to his own apartment. Now, if we were to move in with my parent to help her afford her things, it would be a move backwards to him. To me, it would be a move forwards since we would spend a lot less than we do in this apartment, plus I get to help my grandma. We both work, so it shouldn't be so hard, right?
Well, there's still a lot of options & planning to do.. I still gotta let my fiance know and make things in written contract so that there's no mistakes made later. I just hope things work out in the long run.

Mira of PA 2:33PM September 10, 2011

In agreement, I pay them rent of $ 200.00 a month, plus phone bill, Electricity bill, most of the food.
With all the payments, and agreements of privacy and going along with what they want. Do I have any rights, while I rent from them.
Example: Mother went up stairs where I live, and took all my books out, of my room does she have that right.
One other time, she threw all my books outside on the front lawn.
What are my rights, she keeps threatening she will call the police on me. Plus, she has done it in the pass. Don't I have any legal rights and what are they?

Michelle R. Desrosiers of ME 9:32AM June 24, 2008

I have quite a story. My fiance and I needed to move in with his Mom for a "short time" that translates to a year and a haf and still going. On top of that, she still has two teenage boys at home, and we brought along our two preschoolers and a dog. While we struggle with custody issues of our children (we each have one from a previous relationship), trying to finish school part time, and trying to find real jobs, we live at home with no privacy and only one bathroom for all of us. I keep telling myself that if we make it through this, we're going to stay together forever.
We worked out many of the details before we moved in, we determined the amount of rent per adult, children and dogs stay free. We determined that we are still responsible for our family, we buy our own groceries, cook our own meals, do our own laundry and dishes, and find a babysitter when my soon-to-be-mother-in-law can't do it (she works full time too).
It has been far from easy, but I know that in the end it will be worth it. We live in a great house, our children can go to good schools, and have family around that love them. Sharing a bathroom and no privacy has been the worst of it, but I really have nothing to complain about. Our situation would be incredibly worse if we didn't have his Mom, and the way oil prices are, I think come this winter her situation would be worse if she didn't have us.

Debbie of NH 8:37AM June 08, 2008

I moved back with my folks after many years on my own. I wrote a post earlier this month about it (http://www.freefrombroke.com/2007/12/family-cant-live-with-emunless-it-helps.html)
I like that you made concrete plans for rent before hand. That can definitely be a sore spot as it was for me since my sister was already living with my folks. We had friction as to who should be paying what and how much.
As tough as it was, moving back was a life saver and it allowed me to get out of credit card debt!

Free From Broke of NY 10:29AM December 26, 2007