The Cost of Getting Married

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Legal Marriage, is it really that easy? I hope you can do that with no trouble anyway, I know what you mean by wanting to be married in God's eyes and not worry about the gvt getting more money from you. Would that be considered common law in legal sense? Hmmm...

anonymous of TX 12:45AM March 26, 2010

Have been married and divorced... would like to be married to the man I'm dating longterm & love. But having second thoughts because of the financial, tax implications. I am about as traditional as they come and this is definitely not something I would have embraced 10 yrs ago but am very discouraged about the whole thing these days. Want to be married in God's eyes, but not in the government's legal sense because it seems to be a big racket. Marriage should be encouraged, not discouraged by our tax codes.

Tiffany of WI 11:27PM March 25, 2010

why do suposedly get married under the holy matrmony of god but takes a state court to divorce you and decide where your kids go and a dirty socail servis with men hating woman to make matters worse thats the question I pose feel free email me i share my story how one perosn can ruen your life forever

lee baumgarten of VA 8:49PM March 25, 2010

Why do people have to buy the right to get married in the first place. If the vow is between the couple and god anyway, I don't see why.... and as you can see it seems to only penalize the people that do it the "right" way. I've just about decided that when I do get married, I'm going to forgo the legal part of it altogether. It's not all that long ago that we decided that you had to purchase the right from the government to be married anyway...probably just so the government could make more money.
The whole thing is silly anyway. I'm going to stay "single" according to the government, just because I don't think any of it really makes sense anyway.

"Single" of OK 6:08PM March 25, 2010

This aunt right!

garry of NC 11:46AM March 25, 2010

I'm all for marriage and it's quite undeniable that the breakdown of the family has tremendous financial implications of which children suffer most. However, many fail to mention that there is distinction between first marriages and remarriages. The protective factors are not the same AT ALL--especially for kids. Kids actually do better in single parent families than in remarried/step families. Currently, about half of the marriages is the US are re-marriages. Luckily, there has been a recent groundswell of research and evidenced-based knowledge showing what makes marriage succeed or fail. It is essential that first marriages have the best shot at success by making this knowledge commonplace. - @imarriage http://marriagetweets.com

Marc of CA 4:17PM September 24, 2009

These researchers see a negative moral issue to be exposed if government has constructed any policies which financially encourage people to merely live together and not get married.
Fine. Here is something else coming down the pike that I wish they would also address. Some of the conservative opponents of health care reform have suggested alternative mini-reforms on what they like to call "free-market" principles. One of those suggestions, to address the high number of twenty-somethings who forgo health insurance (due to cost), is for family insurance policies to be modified so that SINGLE children could stay on the parents' coverage to age 29. Married twenty-somethings would not get this break.
It's not just "government" that can devise alluring encouragements to the idea of un-married cohabitation. Hello, church. Are you listening?

Muser of NM 10:30AM September 24, 2009