10 Ways to Make Your Boss Love You

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This is great advice, I have been the manager and one thing I learned was to know what my employees job is and how it should be done. I cannot give expectations to an employee that I had no idea what they did.

1. I was hired to a job no one understood and it was do this with their customers or lose the customer.

2. I have done the job and extremely well, but since no one wants to deal with what I do nor try to understand what I do they pass it off as un important.

3. The job I do is finance procedure but after a year I was shifted to the sales area to accomdate another function that was somewhat in line with mine position.

4. That has created for me to have for 5 years that did not know and had not interest in and did not want to know or take interest in my job and therefore I did not get any reviews for 4 of those years because the manager did not now how or what to do on a review after the first one.

5. the new manager wants to know but the function of my job interferes with the time element of her job which is sales manager not finance issues. while she attempts to understand and does understand some things she shows frustration and pushes me aside.

6. the first review was put me in a catogory or normal which I am not because I create and resolve issues that no one wants to do and I go beyond the scope of my position to do so and even tho I get the normal email saying thanks, it does not get addressed in my review now that I have one.

All you hear these days is how to please a manager, how to be a better emplyee. How about a company listening to the employees and learn how to manage the position the employee is in.

All managers I have been under only pays attention to those who pat them on the backs and strokes their ego.

When I was a manager I applied myself to each employee even if it meant working overtime to understand their position and help them improve and MORE THAN THAT acknowledge them as being important. I have come to realize that most employees need just to be appreciated and acknowledge they are important to a company.

Ann Lawrence of AL 12:02PM January 25, 2012

I think these are all key aspects in being a good employee - absolutely. But, just to play devils advocate, what happens if you have a boss that doesn't shower you with praises, yet you have been a stellar employee? In this job market, the first option would be to look elsewhere and get another job, however, that is not easy to do these days, especially in California, since so many business are leaving the state.

As a manager, it is also important to remember your role with your employees.

Three primary things a good manager does is:

Show respect and acknowledge hard work

Give time and attention to your employees and their goals

Show appreciation and respect

You can find a great blog article about this here:

http://www.pcg-services.com/the-best-employee-incentive-is-recognition/

I love this article, however I felt it important to not forget the perspective of the manager and their role in this. After all, all the efforts in the world will be void if you have a manager that doesn't bother recognizing them.

Dana Costantino of CA 1:53PM December 29, 2011

Fantastic article - if only I had read this sometime earlier when I needed it most!

However, I'm finding it useful to learn from in hindsight. A lot of useful and psychological ways to deal with people you work with in general. Listening to people and understanding their needs is key to successful working relationships, I find.

Leda Baker 7:51AM September 29, 2010

Alison gives good advice. The key to a great working relationship is candor; sometimes the boss needs to better understand how things really are and sometimes the employee needs to see the bigger picture. Usually both need to occur.

I write about the 10 Ways to say 'No' to your boss to talk about this in a (somewhat) tongue-in-cheek way. http://www.dougkreitzberg.com/2009/04/04/10-ways-to-say-no-to-your-boss

Doug Kreitzberg of PA 7:26PM April 10, 2009

Thank you so much, Alison! Your 10 tips on making your employees love you, is an excellent one. Recently, I am experiencing employees giving me the silent treatment. (Similar to a Spouse). This has really bothered me. Also, I am male,and just recently am over an all female staff. For 4 years earlier, it was an all male staff, where me never had any problems. So, It is also a gender situation, as well.

Thanks for any advice you can give me at this point.

Sincerely,

Dirk

Dirk Todd of TX 5:39PM October 08, 2008

these are good tips, but how do you tell your boss she is crap?? And seems to have a Vendetta against you?

Mina of 12:51AM August 27, 2008

Alison,

It is a great article and offers some very sound career

advice. I truly believe that if every employee (including

ourselves) followed this rules, we all be much better off.

I was so impressed by the arcticle, I featured it on

my blog: http://thehrpractitioner.wordpress.com/

Scott Stantliff of TX 2:31PM July 26, 2008

Like to see the subject redone for an out-and-out paranoid leader.

I don't think the answers are the same. BTW there are a few of them around.

sweetfrn of NJ 5:41PM June 21, 2008

I enjoyed your response, it was very enlightening. However, there's another issue broached here, but not addressed. Should she clearly list "Internship" on her resume for her prior 9 month job so that she'll be able to stop answering questions like "why did you leave after such a short period of time?"

Lordia of NY 6:00PM June 20, 2008

Excellent advice!

These are practical suggestions that are readily applicable. Employing these strategies will allow you to avoid surprises, greatly reduce the chance of you being the bottleneck and allow you to be perceived as an action oriented individual who gets the job done.

I would add that you should also manage upwards and ensure that you have a good relationship with your boss' boss, especially if they (boss and boss' boss) do not have a good relationship, or the individual is located at another site.

Regarding he/she, it is really irrelevant for this discussion.

Cheers!

Cliff of CT 10:51AM June 19, 2008

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