Can You Learn to Love Coworkers From Hell?

February 4, 2009 RSS Feed Print
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Last week we talked about five ways to love--or at least like--a job you hate. But what if the problem isn’t the job, rather, it's the people you do the job with?

Awful coworkers can make your life at work ... awful. But you may need to stick with that work for now, so consider these questions:

Is the coworker needling you just to see you react? Your task, then, is to simply refuse to engage. For example, if he asks, “Didja get any last night?” fix him with a brief hard stare and then continue to work. Consistently behaving in an adult fashion makes the coworker look like the naughty child he, in fact, is.

Is the coworker trying to sabotage you or your work? In this case, you must act. If she claims you didn’t finish your Friday report until Monday, for example, correct the record immediately, in front of everyone. State the facts: “Actually, I submitted my report at 3 p.m. on Friday.” Keep cool. Move on.

You will most likely never love a coworker from hell. Your goal is a working détente. And if this proves impossible? You’ll need to take the problem to someone higher up. Have documentation of the abuse or sabotage. Be ready to describe how you’ve tried to resolve the situation on your own. State your case calmly and thoroughly.

No matter what, continue to do your job well, and make sure your boss knows it. And, maybe, start networking for a new and better job, working with pleasant and sane people.

Karen Burns, Working Girl, is the author of The Amazing Adventures of Working Girl: Real-Life Career Advice You Can Actually Use, to be released by Running Press in April 2009 (but available now for pre order at Amazon!). She blogs at karenburnsworkinggirl.com .

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majorshadow of CA 6:47PM December 23, 2010

I am in the same situation. Daily sabotage against me. They clique even had the supervisor fired! Well, she quit. I on the other hand tried to deal with the constant back talking and BS on a daily basis. I was neutral. I should have kept to myself, now I became a listener on both sides. All of them have their faults including myself, but them choosing not to improve their work based on feedback and also not listening to the upper management forced me to look elsewhere for employment. Now I am starting a new job with higher pay and today I will go to the manager and call all the clique on their BS. Hopefully get one or more of them fired! Ha ha. slackers!I worked hard for the company and never said no to any assignments and they are going to be sorry to lose me.

Sheila 9:36AM March 25, 2009

That may not work when those in power are in the same clique! The result is retaliation! That is why my work-life is a living hell! But I am not alone in this manor! Others, as well as myself, are planning to leave when the economy turns around! There will be a massive brain-drain of the knowledge workers that they screwed over while the only ones left behind are the slacker cronies! Yea, the clique that are unable to to get a REAL job anywhere else will be left behind!

CK of FL 5:59AM February 05, 2009

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