5 Networking Tips for People Who Can't Network

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The subject of networking comes up most often as it relates to searching for a job. Unfortunately, most of us begin to network when we are out of work—not before.

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Networking is really about finding common interests with others and beginning new relationships that you aim to nurture long-term. If you are only trying for short-term, me-first kinds of relationships with the people you meet, that's not networking, that's self-promotion.

The most likely reason that people don’t network effectively is they view themselves as introverts or as simply being shy. I understand this. Here are some tips to overcome it:

1. It truly is not about you. It is more about the other person. Ask questions, find their interesting story, learn from them, ask advice. Strive for a conversation that is 25 percent you, 75 percent them.

2. Show up often. Put yourself in situations where you will meet new and interesting people. At first, you might feel as though you're in the spotlight, alone—and you may find that people don't immediately approach you. But be persistent, and by the second (or fifth) time that you show up, people will likely have warmed to you.

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3. Do some of out-of-the-box things. Skydive, bungee-jump, begin writing a novel, start a company, go to the Super Bowl. People love hearing other people's stories, so create some real stories that you can share simply, directly, and humbly.

4. Remember your manners. Smile a lot. Say "please" and "thank you." Hold doors open. Make eye contact. Say “and” more than you say “but.” Be positive. These are the things your mom taught you.

5. Networking is like dating. You don’t walk up to the pretty girl at the bar and say “Want to go home with me?” This only works if you can hit a drive 350 yards, look good in red polo shirts, and have, what, a billion dollars?

This year there have been two popular concepts that have made me want to kick something: “Networking,” because most who talk about it miss the main point—that it’s about others, really. And “personal branding,” which is really about reputation, and if we all spent more time maintaining our reputations, we might not need image consultants.

G. L. Hoffman is a serial entrepreneur and venture investor/operator/incubator/mentor. Two of his companies have traveled the entire success path from the garage to IPO. Currently, he is chairman of JobDig, which operates LinkUp, one of the fastest-growing job search engines. His blog can be found at WhatWouldDadSay.com.

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If someone can't change, that's a real issue; This article has to be read by them and hope it can make some change to their mind!

mar21_ of AL 2:31PM April 29, 2013

1. It truly is not about you.... unless it is. Lets face it... most people aren't interesting to you. They have different hobbies, likes, dislikes than you do. The only reason you are putting up with them is because you want something from them someday.

2. Show up often. That's right, show up in places you normally wouldn't go to unless you were paid, because that's where you are going to meet people to 'network' with.

3. Do some of out-of-the-box things. In other words, be completely fake and do stuff you wouldn't do in a millions years, because that's the only way to keep the attention of these fake friends you are going to network with.

4. Remember your manners. This is actually a good idea, if for no other reason than to keep up the facade that you are enjoying yourself.

5. Networking is like dating. Except without the possibility of sex. Because, you know, that would make it somewhat worthwhile.

screaminscott of TX 4:50PM June 08, 2010

HAVE A FEW WORDS TO SAY,HOWEVER YOUR ADVICE ON THIS SIMPLE ,BUT CHALLENGING SUBJECT IS OF GOOD TASTE,ESPECIALLY TO INDIVIUALS WHO REMAIN INDOORS DURING OFFICE HOURS,MANY OF US ARE EXPOSED TO ROUTINE SCHEDULES ,ONCE TAUGHT THE DAILY OPERATIONS THEN THUS THE END OF IT.

PERSONALLY IAM GRATEFUL FOR THESE TIPS BECAUSE IAM A PERSON WHOSE ALWAYS CONFINED IN ONE PLACE BECAUSE OF THE NATURE OF THE JOB AM DOING.ATLEAST I HAVE LEARNT SOMETHING WHICH WILL MAKE BE PROACTIVE IN NETWORKING.

MAND 10:23AM March 16, 2010

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