7 Things Never to Say to Your Boss

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Everyone has a boss. Even if you “work for yourself,” you’re still an employee to your client.

A big part of maintaining the boss-employee relationship is to never allow a boss to think you dislike your work, are incapable of doing it, or—worse—consider it beneath you.

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These sound like no-brainers, but many statements heard commonly around the workplace violate these basic rules. Looking for an example? Here are seven heard in workplaces all the time. They may seem ordinary, even harmless. But try reading these from your boss’s point of view. You’ll see right away why it’s smart to never allow these seven sentences to pass your lips:

“That’s not my job.” You know what? A lot of bosses are simple souls who think your job is to do what’s asked of you. So even if you’re assigned a task that is, indeed, not your job, refrain from saying so. Instead, try to find out why your boss is assigning you this task—there may be a valid reason. If you believe that doing the task is a bad idea (as in, bad for the company) you can try explaining why and suggesting how it could be better done by someone else. This may work, depending on the boss. In any case, remember that doing what's asked of you, even tasks outside your job description, is good karma.

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“It’s not my problem.” When people say something is not their problem it makes them look like they don’t care. This does not endear them to anybody, especially the boss. If a problem is brewing and you have nothing constructive to say, it’s better to say nothing at all. Even better is to pitch in and try to help. Because, ultimately, a problem in the workplace is everyone’s problem. We’re all in it together.

“It’s not my fault.” Yet another four words to be avoided. Human nature is weird. Claiming that something is not our fault often has the result of making people suspect it is. Besides, what’s the real issue here? It’s that something went wrong and needs to be fixed. That’s what people should be thinking about—not who is to blame.

“I can only do one thing at a time.” News flash: Complaining you are overworked will not make your boss feel sorry for you or go easier on you. Instead, a boss will think: (1) you resent your job, and/or (2) you aren’t up to your job. Everybody, especially nowadays, feels pressured and overworked. If you’re trying to be funny, please note that some sarcasm is funny and lightens the mood. Some just ticks people off.

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“I am way overqualified for this job.” Hey, maybe you are. But the fact is, this is the job you have. You agreed to take it on and, while you may now regret that decision, it’s still your job. Complaining that it’s beneath you only makes you look bad. Plus, coworkers doing similar jobs may resent and dislike you. And guess what? Bosses will not think, “Oh, this is a superior person whom I need to promote.” Nope, they’ll think, “What a jerk.”

“This job is easy! Anyone could do it!” Maybe what you’re trying to convey here is that you’re so brilliant your work is easy. Unfortunately, it comes off sounding more like, “This work is stupid.” Bosses don’t like hearing that any work is stupid. Nor do they really like hearing that a job is easy peasy. It belittles the whole enterprise. If a task is simple, be glad and do it as quickly as you can. Even “stupid” work needs to get done.

“It can’t be done.” Saying something can’t be done is like waving a red flag in a boss’s eyes. Even if the thing being suggested truly is impossible, saying it is can make you look ineffectual or incapable. Better to play detective. Why is the boss asking you to do whatever it is? What’s the problem that needs to be solved? What’s the goal? Search for doable ways of solving that problem or reaching that goal. That’s what bosses really want. Most of them do not expect the impossible.

Last words: When in doubt, remember that silence really is golden.

Karen Burns is the author of the illustrated career advice book The Amazing Adventures of Working Girl: Real-Life Career Advice You Can Actually Use, recently released by Running Press. She blogs at www.karenburnsworkinggirl.com.

 

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The truth, the REAL truth is, that there are no leaders anymore. At least not in the USA.

So bosses I have had in the last 20 years have been useless, ineffectual, power-hungry, jerks, who got there by sucking up.

The real issue is not what to say but how to say it. How do you talk to an idiot who doesn't care at all about what gets done. Just how they look in the doing?

My experience is that most bosses only put out fires they have to. Not proactive, just reactive.

They are not qualified to do anything, much less lead. Then you have the types who might have some skills but they have the same idiots above them creating an atmosphere of hostility and laziness and aggravation that is pervasive and it crushes a persons will to accomplish or achieve.

So teach us to deal with idiots and no more pat answers to cute psych ideals, huh?

We tire of these scenarios that are accepted as real that never existed. like the ideal that a boss wants to get anything done. There is only one example of this that is true and that is any startup company that truly needs employees to get things done.

Once the boss gets the money, he or she quits caring or trying. Only in the most extremely sparse situations does the boss continue to create a good atmosphere. The percentage points tell us that the good is so very small compared to the bad as to be non-existent.

Say 1 percent good to 99 percent bad?

I can count on one hand how many good bosses I have had in 40 years of working.

I have a genius level IQ (135) or at least I have passed the mensa test whatever that means. I could care less about it. It is only a number. The point is I am a smart, hard worker and I have only been mistreated and maligned.

My thoughts are that there are many reasons for this and I am sure I can accept some of the blame. I got sick of being treated badly and falsely thought I had some rights. But you cannot simply rule the employee as the problem and say it is solved.

I have worked in many fields and encountered many different types of people. From office worker to union shops. With the same or similar results, for the most part. Mis-managed, mis-handled and uncaring bosses/companies/employees.

The issue is the work climate in America. No one seems to be working for OUR future. They are all working for THIER present.

Bonk Bonkerson of OH 10:28AM September 28, 2010

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“I am way overqualified for this job.” Hey, maybe you are. But the fact is, this is the job you have. You agreed to take it on and, while you may now regret that decision, it’s still your job.

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I disagree. My boss promised me a specific position with specific responsibilities which never materialized. I am now in a dead-end position FAR below my capabilities.

Sometimes this statement is completely true, and sometimes you did NOT agree to take on the job you have.

Things aren't nearly as black and white as you seem to believe.

* sorry for the necro

patatata 6:25PM July 15, 2010

really helpful and knowlageable to know ur boss mood.......

correct ..boss is always right ...and never let him down...

regards,

HARBHAJAN SINGH

HARBHAJAN SINGH 9:28AM April 30, 2010

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