7 Things Never to Say to Your Boss

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The truth, the REAL truth is, that there are no leaders anymore. At least not in the USA.
So bosses I have had in the last 20 years have been useless, ineffectual, power-hungry, jerks, who got there by sucking up.
The real issue is not what to say but how to say it. How do you talk to an idiot who doesn't care at all about what gets done. Just how they look in the doing?
My experience is that most bosses only put out fires they have to. Not proactive, just reactive.
They are not qualified to do anything, much less lead. Then you have the types who might have some skills but they have the same idiots above them creating an atmosphere of hostility and laziness and aggravation that is pervasive and it crushes a persons will to accomplish or achieve.
So teach us to deal with idiots and no more pat answers to cute psych ideals, huh?
We tire of these scenarios that are accepted as real that never existed. like the ideal that a boss wants to get anything done. There is only one example of this that is true and that is any startup company that truly needs employees to get things done.
Once the boss gets the money, he or she quits caring or trying. Only in the most extremely sparse situations does the boss continue to create a good atmosphere. The percentage points tell us that the good is so very small compared to the bad as to be non-existent.
Say 1 percent good to 99 percent bad?
I can count on one hand how many good bosses I have had in 40 years of working.
I have a genius level IQ (135) or at least I have passed the mensa test whatever that means. I could care less about it. It is only a number. The point is I am a smart, hard worker and I have only been mistreated and maligned.
My thoughts are that there are many reasons for this and I am sure I can accept some of the blame. I got sick of being treated badly and falsely thought I had some rights. But you cannot simply rule the employee as the problem and say it is solved.
I have worked in many fields and encountered many different types of people. From office worker to union shops. With the same or similar results, for the most part. Mis-managed, mis-handled and uncaring bosses/companies/employees.
The issue is the work climate in America. No one seems to be working for OUR future. They are all working for THIER present.

Bonk Bonkerson of OH 10:28AM September 28, 2010

-- quote --
“I am way overqualified for this job.” Hey, maybe you are. But the fact is, this is the job you have. You agreed to take it on and, while you may now regret that decision, it’s still your job.
-- end quote --
I disagree. My boss promised me a specific position with specific responsibilities which never materialized. I am now in a dead-end position FAR below my capabilities.
Sometimes this statement is completely true, and sometimes you did NOT agree to take on the job you have.
Things aren't nearly as black and white as you seem to believe.
* sorry for the necro

patatata 6:25PM July 15, 2010

really helpful and knowlageable to know ur boss mood.......
correct ..boss is always right ...and never let him down...
regards,
HARBHAJAN SINGH

HARBHAJAN SINGH 9:28AM April 30, 2010

I am liberian 32years of age a Microsoft Certify Trainer working as a Trainer in a Computer in Monrovia Located on 134-
Lynch Street, Where I have been for about few Month as a Trainer
I really see while I should argue wwith my or even the Students I
Teach.
I thing if we consider our present Condition I want to encourage
that those who help us to keep going are our Bosses and therefore
we should give them the due respect what ever the situation and the time remember your Boss is your Boss we can build if we as young people give the respect the Boss deserve.
Appreciate my Boss
I promise to Continue to respect Him
My Respect
Alfred Quire Choloply
231-06247411
Liberian

Alfred Quire Choloply of IL 8:00AM April 30, 2010

that;s great something i will do love that man

thomas morgan 4:24PM April 15, 2010

When your boss is angry, even a right approach suggested to him will not be accepted. Check your boss's mood before you enter his/her cabin.
And never argue with the boss. Majority of them do not like it.

K.J.Haroon Basha of AL 5:12PM March 30, 2010

!.) I actually create the wealth, with my labor, that supports your livelihood

of 1:01PM March 29, 2010

"Better to play detective. Why is the boss asking you to do whatever it is? What’s the problem that needs to be solved? What’s the goal?"
My abusive manager ("we don't have bosses here, we have managers") didn't know what he wanted, and he wasn't interested in my part of the project, because he "inherited" it from another manager. NIH syndrome: he didn't invent it, therefore he didn't care about it. But he wanted "productivity" -- on a project that was finished. (I came to him and I asked him for something else to work on, and he blew up.) What exactly did he want me to produce? Apparently it was my job to figure that out.

Fred of OR 12:10PM March 29, 2010

I have no issues telling my boss to STFU. The reason why is that he knows I'm way underpaid, and that he was supposed to do certain things for me after six months on the job. He knows that I go above and beyond the call of duty in all the tasks asked of me. If I decline, I give him a good reason why. Knowing my boss, if he felt he could take advantage of me, he'd have no respect for me. That would make for a bad working relationship. I don't allow that to happen.

Chris K of FL 9:18AM March 29, 2010