5 Ways to Overcome Job-Search Frustration

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The Job Op Shop of GA 8:44PM May 24, 2012

P.S. I also think that pretend positivity does just what Curt says. A person can only stuff it for so long. I think that stuff needs to get out of the way by letting it out in a way that doesn't hurt anyone. I find that I am friends with my journal for that stuff. I really let my journal have it. Being afraid to be angry takes away the power of that anger to be creative.

Annie wallack of CA 1:37AM October 26, 2011

I like this guy, Curt Rosengren. He's very sensible. Focusing all day long on getting a job is misery. A person might as well have fun, and do THE WORK. It's the best thing I know of to clear my head of chaos and imaginary scenarios about how terrible things can be. I've recently taken to seeing challenges in a way that helps. Instead of projecting fear into my future, if I see myself as capable of accomplishing any task, I am more prone to walk more confidently into that future without all those what if's and if only's dragging me down. I seem to be happier just doing the task in front of me. I still throw fear and uncertaint into thinking about what would happen if I didn't have money or a job, but the honest truth is that I AM CAPABLE, and creative, and that's a lot truer than thinking that I'm not and trying to go out and find work.

Annie wallack of CA 1:33AM October 26, 2011

Wish I had found this a year ago. I still have residual anger. I got burned by a commission driven investment adviser. (Basically I lost out at least $10,000 by getting our of the market at just the wrong time while he made a $10,000 commission.) Was so furious I was having conversations with myself and ruminating over and over until I could meet with his boss. I was so livid I didn't know who I could talk to because 9/10 times I find talking to the wrong person can make it worse especially if they start blaming me or go off on a tangent. I was so furiously angry I couldn't sleep and I knew it wasn't good or healthy but it was what it was. Ironically if I had talked calmly with the financial advisor I'm working with now (and IF she was more sales-driven at the time) I would have been rescued into something better during the grace period. I called her but she didn't grab the ball (sale) and run with it. She was more intent on calming me down. (She's also AND Primarily a therapist). I think at least from now on God forbid something like that happens again (but I guess Life being what it is, chances are it will happen again) I will have some perspective and use these tools you provided. Both should help.
Also a word from the Now Wiser if someone finds themself in such a panicky financial situation, don't despair or get so consumed by your anger that you forget that there IS very likely a solution or path that will help make it almost all better or alot better anyway. Stay calm and focused. Take a deep breath and find the best angle or advise for you and what your next move should be AND WHAT OPTIONS YOU HAVE. It's not the end of the world. And Good will overcome evil/greed.
Thank you for providing this. I have yet to encounter anything like this available.

Mary of IL 2:58PM September 30, 2011

Bruce-I found this and thought it might be of interest 2 U!

Bruce Ahrons of CA 1:04PM September 30, 2011

Thank You for mentioning "The Work"

Dianne Sikel of AZ 1:23PM September 29, 2011

I saw a post that talks about greed and waste Yes, we have some definite learning opps here in the great USA. I would not trade living here for anywhere else. This economic change has made me personally rethink how I spend and on what I spend my money. It has also given me an opportunity to be more creative and learn about me more. A specific example is that I wrote down the things that I am amazing at, the things I love to do, the things that I am very efficient at (which to me means that I am extremely skilled in those AND I flat out know how to do them). I created a job for myself in a small company that needed a marketing director. They love me, and I get to use my skills in the things that I already know how to do. When I hear people state that this country is wasteful etc. First, do you vote consistently? Second, do you have the phone number of your representative and Congressional seat in your cell phone so you can make sure they know what is going on in our country? If not, do so. Complaining and whining in the background to fellow citizens does not accomplish anything except stir up negative energy that is very nonproductive. I know many of the reps in Missouri and we meet every year in January and discuss the things that are going on within our communities that are affecting our businesses. They appreciate us and they LISTEN to us. A vote is one voice, a real voice is putting yourself out there and sharing the reality of the situation face to face. If you really want to learn why you are unemployed, and why you were let go, take a real look inside of how were you greedy, unproductive, stealing from the company with product or time wasters. Then the mirror will be up and you can see how you are 'just like' the government. Oh yeah, you are the government! They represent you, how scary right?

Donna of MO 10:53AM September 29, 2011

I agree with a lot of what you state. I remember when I was a senior manager at a national bank and we let a branch manager go at a local branch where she had been for 10 years. She was clearly under performing in her goals on loans and on deposits. About a year after we let her go, I saw her in a restaurant. Her exact words "I am so glad you all fired me! I was miserable and to chicken to take action myself and quit. I found a great job and I love what I do now!" Those words always give me peace when I listen to others that are in the search for employment or especially in life changing decision making periods. I believe the reason she was under performing is because she was not suited for the entire composition of the job description. In other words, she was a great personal banker, but lacked many of the skill sets to be a great leader and manager creating a lot of income for the branch. Many times I see corporations promote from within without looking at the true abilities required for the position they are filling. As I coach clients now, I firmly believe we are exactly where we are supposed to be right now because if we were not we would not be here! Donna

Donna of MO 10:39AM September 29, 2011

I'd like to know how to stay positive. The news has nothing positive to tell about
the economy. Everyday more and more resources are being shutdown for those who are unemployed. I don't understand how the great country called AMERICA can leave people homeless and hopeless. It shames me to live in this country of greed and waste.

Lee of ME 10:37AM August 24, 2011

Curt,
Thanks for the great post. You have an interesting perspective on how to cope with the job hunt. As recruiters, we see a lot of candidates who have been looking for jobs for a long time, and this advice is great for anyone who is feeling like the job search will never end.

Emily Carter of NJ 4:48PM August 22, 2011