5 Ways to Overcome Job-Search Frustration

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Oh Yes, Byron Katie's Do "The Work" is a great Process.
The work involves questions which you can make
in a funny way also , like :
Do I need a job ?
Do I need to search for a Job ?
ohhhh,
I'll let the job search for me !

Sharath Chandra 9:27AM March 16, 2013

I know that job hunting is supposed to be a challenge, but how am I supposed to deal with the fact that, as long as I'm unemployed, I'm risking serious problems that put my life in jeopardy, such homelessness and starvation?
I become resentful that job searching brings me too close to these kinds of risky situations. There is a clear impression in my mind that our society has an attitude of: "suck it up", "pull yourself up by your bootstraps", "your difficulties in finding a job are fragrant faults in your entire being that elicit punishment by prospective employers by denying you work".
I understand that employers are inundated with applications, but there seems to be an over acceptance on the job searcher's being forced to float in a uncertain space of time where they are not able to support themselves. I feel that this a dangerous, if not abusive, aspect to our society that is nowhere close to being addressed.

Solomon Russell of CA 8:16PM November 27, 2012

Great post! The fact that you means someone is reading and liking it! Congrats!That’s great advice.

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The Job Op Shop of GA 8:44PM May 24, 2012

P.S. I also think that pretend positivity does just what Curt says. A person can only stuff it for so long. I think that stuff needs to get out of the way by letting it out in a way that doesn't hurt anyone. I find that I am friends with my journal for that stuff. I really let my journal have it. Being afraid to be angry takes away the power of that anger to be creative.

Annie wallack of CA 1:37AM October 26, 2011

I like this guy, Curt Rosengren. He's very sensible. Focusing all day long on getting a job is misery. A person might as well have fun, and do THE WORK. It's the best thing I know of to clear my head of chaos and imaginary scenarios about how terrible things can be. I've recently taken to seeing challenges in a way that helps. Instead of projecting fear into my future, if I see myself as capable of accomplishing any task, I am more prone to walk more confidently into that future without all those what if's and if only's dragging me down. I seem to be happier just doing the task in front of me. I still throw fear and uncertaint into thinking about what would happen if I didn't have money or a job, but the honest truth is that I AM CAPABLE, and creative, and that's a lot truer than thinking that I'm not and trying to go out and find work.

Annie wallack of CA 1:33AM October 26, 2011

Wish I had found this a year ago. I still have residual anger. I got burned by a commission driven investment adviser. (Basically I lost out at least $10,000 by getting our of the market at just the wrong time while he made a $10,000 commission.) Was so furious I was having conversations with myself and ruminating over and over until I could meet with his boss. I was so livid I didn't know who I could talk to because 9/10 times I find talking to the wrong person can make it worse especially if they start blaming me or go off on a tangent. I was so furiously angry I couldn't sleep and I knew it wasn't good or healthy but it was what it was. Ironically if I had talked calmly with the financial advisor I'm working with now (and IF she was more sales-driven at the time) I would have been rescued into something better during the grace period. I called her but she didn't grab the ball (sale) and run with it. She was more intent on calming me down. (She's also AND Primarily a therapist). I think at least from now on God forbid something like that happens again (but I guess Life being what it is, chances are it will happen again) I will have some perspective and use these tools you provided. Both should help.
Also a word from the Now Wiser if someone finds themself in such a panicky financial situation, don't despair or get so consumed by your anger that you forget that there IS very likely a solution or path that will help make it almost all better or alot better anyway. Stay calm and focused. Take a deep breath and find the best angle or advise for you and what your next move should be AND WHAT OPTIONS YOU HAVE. It's not the end of the world. And Good will overcome evil/greed.
Thank you for providing this. I have yet to encounter anything like this available.

Mary of IL 2:58PM September 30, 2011

Bruce-I found this and thought it might be of interest 2 U!

Bruce Ahrons of CA 1:04PM September 30, 2011

Thank You for mentioning "The Work"

Dianne Sikel of AZ 1:23PM September 29, 2011

I saw a post that talks about greed and waste Yes, we have some definite learning opps here in the great USA. I would not trade living here for anywhere else. This economic change has made me personally rethink how I spend and on what I spend my money. It has also given me an opportunity to be more creative and learn about me more. A specific example is that I wrote down the things that I am amazing at, the things I love to do, the things that I am very efficient at (which to me means that I am extremely skilled in those AND I flat out know how to do them). I created a job for myself in a small company that needed a marketing director. They love me, and I get to use my skills in the things that I already know how to do. When I hear people state that this country is wasteful etc. First, do you vote consistently? Second, do you have the phone number of your representative and Congressional seat in your cell phone so you can make sure they know what is going on in our country? If not, do so. Complaining and whining in the background to fellow citizens does not accomplish anything except stir up negative energy that is very nonproductive. I know many of the reps in Missouri and we meet every year in January and discuss the things that are going on within our communities that are affecting our businesses. They appreciate us and they LISTEN to us. A vote is one voice, a real voice is putting yourself out there and sharing the reality of the situation face to face. If you really want to learn why you are unemployed, and why you were let go, take a real look inside of how were you greedy, unproductive, stealing from the company with product or time wasters. Then the mirror will be up and you can see how you are 'just like' the government. Oh yeah, you are the government! They represent you, how scary right?

Donna of MO 10:53AM September 29, 2011