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4. Recognize that sometimes, rarely, the exception may happen. Maybe your old job really does find your skill set too valuable to lose. Or a fantastic promotion was imminent and plotted out for you, but you just hadn't given it enough time to come through. If your employer reveals true enthusiasm for having you stay based on grounds such as these, you still have to make sure that your counteroffer is better and more secure than what you'd have working in a new position. "I'd never stay with an old company unless there was some employment agreement to keep me on for 12 to 24 months, just so that I'd have a safety net," Cafasso says. Make sure to get a counteroffer that reflects terms you can live with in writing before turning down a new opportunity, or agreeing to accept a counteroffer.
Correction on 08/14/2013: A previous version of this story misidentified the URL of Nick Corcodilos’ website. The correct URL is AskTheHeadhunter.com.