7. Oversized diaper bag. Jill Adams, a mother of three in New York state, says she tried using a "supersized, compartment-for-everything diaper bag." However, she found it was bigger than she needed and ugly to carry around, so instead she wound up using a large toiletries bag that she could drop into her stroller net bag. As for the supersized diaper bag, Adams says, "I believe it died a moldy death in the back corner of some closet."
8. Video baby monitor. Altmann says she sees a lot of parents spend hundreds of dollars on high-tech video monitors. "There haven't been any studies that show it helps prevent illness, injury or SIDS," she adds. "I find that for most families, if you leave the door open, you're going to hear [the baby]. If you have a really big house, I usually recommend a sound baby monitor so you can hear when your baby wakes up." Audio-only baby monitors are often much less expensive than video monitors, and Scott uses a regular sound monitor for her daughter, in part because she found the video monitor she used while visiting a friend to be distracting.
"The truth is that when you have a new baby, the things that you need the most are not things that you can buy," says Margulis. "What you really need is support with housework and preparing meals and the freedom to sit on the couch for hours and stare in a baby's beautiful newborn eyes."
Corrected on 04/22/2013: A previous version of this story misspelled Denise Schipani’s name.