Money can't buy happiness, but it sure can buy a lot of gifts. So if you're running low on cash during the holidays and have a lot of family and friends to buy presents for, this can be a frustrating season. Here are seven strategies to help you combat financial stress.
Budget. Carefully budgeting for holiday gifts is an obvious strategy that isn't very satisfying if you're behind on bills, haven't bought anything and are panicking with Christmas just weeks away. (Hanukkah, of course, came early this year, ending Dec. 5.)
Still, who can argue with the idea of planning what you will spend? While your budget may not look pretty, do what you can. Amitrajeet Batabyal, an economics professor at the Rochester Institute of Technology's College of Liberal Arts in Rochester, N.Y., suggests that after you set a budget, aim to pay cash for your purchases, shop online to efficiently find sale prices and avoid applying for department store credit cards that can put you further into debt.
Avoid stressful shopping situations. Shopping during the holidays can be taxing even when you have money, observes Robert Epstein, a psychology professor at the University of the South Pacific and a senior research psychologist at the American Institute for Behavioral Research and Technology. Epstein is also the former editor-in-chief of Psychology Today. He says shopping on a deadline can make anyone sweat and suggests fighting stress proactively.
"In other words, try to arrange things so that you never even encounter the actual stressors," Epstein says. "That can mean buying things well in advance of the deadlines, shopping only when the crowds are small, buying over the Internet with a cocktail in your hand – doing whatever it takes so that you never have to fight for a parking space or deal with a rude cashier. Fight stress before it starts."
And you may find that you make smarter budgetary decisions without a lot of stress and chaos surrounding you.
Don't keep your money woes to yourself. This can mean a lot of things, of course. If you're truly down in the dumps and unable to cope with your financial situation, you need to find someone to confide in, stat. If not a family or friend, consider contacting the National Foundation for Credit Counseling (nfcc.org; 800-388-2227), which can help you set up a financial plan.
If you're truly in despair, consider the National Suicide Hotline (suicidepreventionlifeline.org; 800-273-8255). Hopefully you aren't anywhere near that depressed; You're just understandably frustrated and stressed by the idea of paying your usual bills while trying to buy what seems like an inordinate amount of gifts.
If that's the case, "get the whole family on board so that everyone feels comfortable with the idea of a [holiday budget] plan," suggests Lynn Ballou, a certified financial planner and owner of an investment advisory firm in Lafayette, Calif.
If you have kids that are old enough to understand, Ballou recommends telling them in advance that the number or quality of gifts will be modest. And recognize that you may be doing them a favor in the long run. "Raising kids who really understand and internalize that message are far more likely to manage their own fiscal lives better than those whose parents never set money boundaries," Ballou says.
Remember what's really important. "The best way to cope with a materialistic time of year is not to fall prey to pressure from the retail world and spend because it is what you do during the holidays," says Carla Blair-Gamblian, a home loan consultant with Veterans United Home Loans. "The holiday is about religion and family. Focus on that."
That's easier said than done if you have kids with high expectations or materialistic parents, siblings, cousins and friends, but it's irrefutable advice.
Be creative with your gift-giving. If making, say, handmade soap and other crafts isn't an option due to your lack of artistic skill, you could always give someone the gift of time.